5 Ways to Improve your Emotional Intelligence
By Antonietta Marinelli | June 25, 2021
In the past as part of Student Life we have looked at the benefits of emotional intelligence in the workplace. It is important to note that emotional intelligence is a skill and attribute that can be developed and as emotional intelligence continues to be an increasingly popular skill to have within the professional world, many are beginning to question how to improve it. Developing your EQ skills is vital to professional success, and many companies with employees that hold a high level of emotional intelligence see major increases in productivity and performance (Golhar, 2020).
It is important to discover the foundations of emotional intelligence. There are many activities and strategies in which are attempted to build, develop, and maintain one’s emotional intelligence.
Here are 5 handy ways to improve your emotional intelligence:
Very often we get distracted and lead busy lifestyles and lose sight of our emotions. To reconnect with these emotions, try setting a timer at different points throughout your day. When that timer goes off, take a step back and pay attention to the emotion you are feeling in that present moment, and how it is being projected physically. Writing down your emotions, or how you feel into a journal is a good way to keep track and becoming aware of what you are doing and potentially highlighting areas in which could use some improvement.
2. Respond Instead of Reacting
During instances of conflict or confrontation, we are often overwhelmed with emotional outburst, or reacting without thinking. However, in moments like this, those with high EQ know how to maintain calmness. They do not make impulsive decisions in which can lead to bigger problems. In moments like this, take a step back and re-assess the situation at hand. What conscious choice can be made or focused on to deescalate the situation, and what actions and words can be used to calm it down.
3. Responsibility for Your Emotions
We do not have any control of external factors, however the way we feel, and behave is completely and utterly in our control. Taking ownership of how we feel and behave will not only have a positive impact on your mental health, but on all areas of your life.
4. Understanding What Motivates You
We all have an inner motivation in which pushes us to get through every day. However, there is always difficulty in maintaining the force to continue pushing through. All too often, as people, we fail to complete our goals because we lose motivation (Martin, 2019). Write down things in which drive you and know have a positive outcome on you both emotionally, mentally and physically.
5. Listening and Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand other people’s emotions. Understanding that we all consume situations different, with different emotional responses. To be empathic means allowing yourself to envision that person in the situation they are in and allowing their experiences to resonate with your own. This is a lifelong skill and is vital when navigating relationships. This can be practiced through listening, being transparent and open-minded.
• Cherry, K. 2020. Utlizing Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace. Verywell Mind. [Accessed 17 June 2021] https://www.verywellmind.com/utilizing-emotional-intelligence-in-the-workplace-4164713
• Golhar, A. 2020. 10 Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence: Developing your EQ skills is essential to professional success today. Inc. [Accessed 23 June 2021] https://www.inc.com/young-entrepreneur-council/10-ways-to-increase-your-emotional-intelligence.html